Adventist Father Refused Funeral in Fiji

The rejection causes his son to inquire about the Sabbath.

By Andrew McChesney

Nobody wanted to help Kositela Tito when his father died.

“You can’t have a church funeral for him,” said one.

“Just go bury him,” said another.

The people in the remote Fijian village of Nakavika turned their backs on Tito’s father because he had become a Seventh-day Adventist. The other villagers, including Tito, belonged to another Christian denomination.

Tito wanted his father to have a proper funeral, and he appealed to the village chief, who happened to be his cousin. The chief granted a church funeral — on the condition that Tito built an Adventist church for the funeral.

Tito built a small shed, and he and other relatives crowded inside for the funeral. An Adventist pastor gave a sermon about the state of the dead.

Tito listened in shock. He always had thought that people went to heaven when they died. But the pastor described death as a sleep and pointed out that Jesus also called death a sleep in the story of Lazarus in John 11.

Tito’s sister handed him a Bible to read as the pastor spoke. Tito saw that the words in John 11 matched the pastor’s words.

The pastor then turned to 1 Thessalonians 4:16 and read that the dead would wake up in their graves at Jesus’ second coming. He read, “For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first” (NKJV).

Again, Tito looked in the Bible and saw that it matched the pastor’s words. He had never read the Bible during worship services in his own church.

When the mourners gathered for a meal after the funeral, Tito grabbed the arm of an Adventist guest.

“Please come with me to my family’s house,” he said. “I want to know more about what happens when people die.”

The church member accompanied him home and gave him a Bible study about the state of the dead. Tito wanted to know more, and he invited the man to return for more Bible studies.

But Tito’s wife, Vika, didn’t want any part of the Bible studies. She shut herself and their two young children in another room when the church member visited.

After two months, Tito reached the Bible study about baptism, and he announced that he wanted to be baptized.

Vika wept when she learned about his decision.

“I chose you because we have the same beliefs,” she said. “If this is your church, then it is better for us to separate. We have two kids. You take one, and I’ll take the other.”

Tito was sad, but he would not be swayed.

“Vika, from now on God will be No. 1 in my life and you will be No. 2,” he said. “But I promise you one thing. If my love for you was 50 percent before, now it will be 100 percent.”

After the baptism, Tito told Vika that he wouldn’t stop her from attending her church on Sundays. But he asked her not to cook or do laundry anymore on Saturdays. He said he would do both on Sundays.

A month passed, and Vika noticed that her husband truly wasn’t the man whom she had married. When he finished his work as a schoolteacher for the day, he no longer went out with his friends to drink. He didn’t invite friends over for conversations filled with smoking and cursing. Instead he came straight home from work and spent time with her and the children. He didn’t drink, smoke, or curse.

One day she called him over.

“Tito, I have really seen something different in you,” she said. “You are not the Tito that I knew before. We used to fight, but not anymore. We had many differences, but not now. We have a lot of family time together. Please, I also want to know this truth.”

Tito had been praying for Vika, and her words thrilled his heart. They prayed together, and he arranged for Bible studies. Soon she was baptized.

Today, Tito, 33, teaches Sabbath School in addition to his classroom at school. Vika teaches the children’s Primary class. He is giving Bible studies to the villagers, and two have been baptized.

He has faced trouble at school because of his faith. One day, he arrived to find someone had urinated on his desk. Another day, someone scrawled an obscenity about him on the school wall. The school principal had to call the police when a drunken villager threated him with a knife.

But he is determined to share the gospel. He prays, “God, I am willing to share Your words to the rest of this community. Please use me in these last days.”